Being Single

Here's another nice guest blog of my dear friend Bernhard. Hope you enjoy it!

Being Single

If you are single you want to be in a relationship and if you are in a relationship you sometimes wish being single again - we all know that feeling. The worst thing that could happen is that you always wish you were single. Because if you do think that way something is not right with you and your partner.
But is being single so bad? Is the idea of living your own life - and even if it is just for a few months - really that crazy? If your partner always says what you shouldn't do and what he doesn't want you to be then I think it is not a bad idea at all. The point of being in a relationship is loving the person next to you with all their flaws and even if it gets rough you want to figure something out together.
I am telling you now: If you have ideas of your life and someone wants to hold you back then please leave before you regret it. It will hurt but if you finally reach what you were looking for - is it a job or a country you want to live in - then you can still settle down.
I am 21 years old and want to see things, i feel like i could move mountains when i think of other cities. So now I am free - once again, but i don't regret it because i know i have dreams and if being single is the key to move on I am willing to let go of my relationship.
We have only one life - we shouldn't waste it with thoughts like: Why didn't I do that?
We should say - I learned from that experience and it was worth it!

Xoxo, enjoy your life and do whatever you feel is right!

Long-distance relationship II

Remember Mr. French? The one who promised me countless massages and who I had successfully convinced to at least try a long-distance relationship when I had to go back after my internship ended.

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But a few weeks before I had to leave for uni he came to my place and, after a few minutes of small talk he just announced: 'I don't want a long-distance relationship'. At first I was real calm and it seemed I would be able to take it like that, I even tried to comfort him, because he seemed a bit shattered.
That's when I broke down, too. I cried and simply couldn't understand why he would do that to us. I couldn't understand why he wouldn't try at least. He was so sweet and stayed for over an hour trying to comfort me, but I knew I'd never calm down as long as he was there, so I felt like I had to send him away.

Before he left he asked me to stay friends - I know, people say that all the time when they break up, but I had the feeling he meant it. So, after a few weeks we made an attempt at staying friends and met for dinner and drinks. At first it was kind of awkward and we didn't really know what to talk about, but in the end I felt like it had been a nice evening and I started to believe that we could actually stay friends.

Xoxo, try to enjoy what you have as long as it's still there.

Changes

Hello girls!

Sorry for the lack of posts lately but there have been so many changes in this past few weeks... And I'm on my way to Sardinia right now, where I'll spend the next two weeks lying on the white sand beach getting tanned and enjoying the view on all those hot Italian guys I hope will be around. I promise to tell you all about what's been going on as soon as I'm back!

In the meantime check out my board Places I want to see on Pinterest.

Xoxo, enjoy the last days of summer!

Oh my love, Pinterest!

I know, I know, I said, I'd write about dating and that kind of stuff. But I have just spent so much time - hours and hours - on Pinterest recently, that I figured, I'd share some of the awesome diy tutorials, ideas and websites I found, with you.

You are your words

You are your words is a website, where you can upload a picture (preferably a portrait) and the program will repaint the picture using your own words. You are asked to type in a text that describes yourself. As I didn't have time, I just copied a few quotes from Sex and the City - which worked perfectly fine too.
I'm still so excited, that I found this website! Just imagine how many great and artsy pictures you could make using this tool. You only need a nice picture, some text and a bit creativity - everything else is done by the website. And the best thing about it: It's totally free!
Everybody'll think you turned into an artist overnight.

DIY and Crafts

As for DIY, arts and crafts: Pinterest is my personal heaven! Check out my pinterest board "What to try someday". It is so much fun to try all the tutorials and instructions and most of them are so easy to make while most times they also save you money.

Here are a few examples of the DIY tutorials I'm definitely going to try one day:

Button Bookmarks by iheartnaptime

Braided Bead Necklace by Make up and Macaroons

DIY candle holders by Martha Stewart

Busuu

I have recently started studying French - so I could talk to my sweet French's family, if he ever decides to introduce me. ;)

So I googled free online courses for studying French. What I found was very varied, some only offering a few vocabulary tables, others everything varying from online-classes, live-chats and mobile apps to free podcasts - for a steep prize, of course.

Busuu was the first that I found that offered modules with interactive vocabulary tables, exercises and a test at the end of each module. But what I think makes a very big difference to other online programs is the writing section. In each module you are asked to write a few sentences using the vocabulary you just learned. For example in the module "Bienvenue" (Welcome) I had to introduce myself. Usually this part is corrected by the computer or you are told it has been sent to someone you never hear of again. At Busuu you can choose up to five people of the community (who's native language is the language you are learning) and send them what you've written, so they'll correct it. Most times they even give you reasons and explanations why they corrected something or why this has to be in this or that way.

Besides that you even have the chance to chat with other people of the community - even video chatting is possible.

Xoxo, leave a comment if you know other exciting, useful or just fun websites!

Long-distance relationship?

I've been dreading the question forever. I've been thinking about it for weeks. Don't ask me why, but somehow I knew I wouldn't like the answer. Until I finally plucked up my courage and asked my precious boyfriend how he imagined things would go on after I had to go back to university for one more year.

To make things more clear for you, we've been dating for about three months, I am madly in love with him and the town I'm studying in and where I have to go back to in about one and a half months, is about five hours by train away.

At first he didn't react to my question at all, but then after a minute or two he cuddled up to me and held me real tight - I could actually feel him shake, and I do suspect that he even shed a few tears, but I'm not too sure about that :) This gave me hope. If it made him so sad just to think about being separated he wouldn't finish off things as soon as I had to go back.

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He explained his rather extreme reaction by telling me that he didn't know how to answer my question and that he was sad to let me go indeed. I tried to reassure him that everything would be fine, as long as he promised me not to break up with me as soon as I had to go back. And that was the moment, when the worst happened: he hesitated. He didn't assure me that we'd be fine, that we could do the whole long-distance relationship-thing.

Until that moment I had been on the verge of tears, because I had been dreading the question for so long. Then I just couldn't hold them back anymore, and he went: Oh no, sweetheart, don't cry! But I couldn't stop myself, because for me it was crystal clear: If he couldn't agree to at least try and make the long-distance relationship work, this would be it. I didn't want to pretend being happy for a few more weeks, knowing that it would be over the moment I went back. So I desperately tried to change his mind, telling him it would only be for a year, that we could at least meet up twice a month and that of course it would be hard, but I didn't want this to end right there. But as he still wasn't convinced to try making it work, I decided to go home. I kissed him goodbye one last time.

Back home I broke down and cried until I couldn't even cry anymore. I couldn't imagine being all by myself again, having to go through a breakup again. So I called my sweet French and asked him to come over and spend the night, because I couldn't stand being alone. When he came he finally agreed to at least try to make it work, but I still suspect that he had only said it to make me feel better.

Since then we haven't talked about it again, but although we agreed on at least trying to make it work, it took me a few days to get over it. However, I always had the feeling that something was between us, something, that was separating us and it feels so much better now as we have at least tried to talk about it.

Xoxo, do you think this is going to work? Have you ever been in a situation like that?

Love or Truth?

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My dear B is asking himself - Is his relationship strong enough to take what he's about to do?

Love or Truth?
It's come to the point where I have to decide telling the love of my probably whole life that i might move to another city. He doesn't know that I applied for the job and I know that he wouldn't want me to accept it because we gave ourselves a second change. I mean it's not even for sure that I am moving but should I tell him? Or is it better to enjoy the time I have with him? I couldn't help but wonder - Is it sometimes better to not tell the truth when it's not even sure you do something in the future? Or should you tell him- get into a fight with him and if u don't get the job be happy?

Xoxo, let us know, have you ever been in a situation like that?

Boyfriend turned romantic

My French Guy is finally back from his holidays and my patience has been paying off ever since. Things have been better than ever before and it seems like my being worried about missing him so much doesn't seem to have been wrong.

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But what I really wanted to tell you about is yesterday. Yesterday, when he did the most romantic thing I could imagine right now: When we were just getting ready to going to bed, I said: You know what I've been thinking? A massage would be so nice right now.

Next thing I know is that he told me to take off my shirt and lie down. And then he gave me one of the most romantic massages I ever got. With lots of kisses and tender touching (only my back, of course)

When it was over and I was lying in his arms I promised him to give him a massage in return the next time he would be staying over. He just said hmm and told me that I would get another one then too and every other time I want one. And then he said the most romantic thing: You have a free pass for massages. I will give you as many massages as you want.

In my experience until now I always had to make an effort to get my boyfriend to give me a massage, that's why I was so touched by him saying that. Also, this gives me the feeling that he's got the intention of sticking around for some time. Don't ask me why, I just got the feeling that this is going to be a great love story. We even made it to falling asleep in each others arms - no need for My Side, Your Side anymore. If this isn't a sign, I don't know what is.

Xoxo, just be patient for some time and you will get even more than you ever dreamed of!